Here is what finally worked
I installed the drive temporarily in a laptop that had an Intel 200 series chip set.
The installer could see the drive.
Installed Windows from the laptop.
Put it into the new computer.
Set bios to ahci, ufei, secure mode on.
Booted to USB Windows 10 installer...
Tried front and back USB, Two different USB sticks created with the Windows MediaCreationTool1903.
I was just testing the installer on two other computers. It sees the drives on an older system just fine, but can't see an NVME on an Intel 300 series chipset in a Dell Latitude 5491.
Additional issue I can't figure out. I tried connecting a SATA drive, just to see if I can get it to show up in the installer.
It is in the Bios. It doesn't show up in the drive list in the windows installer, but I can brows it to look for drives when it asks if I want to load drivers.
I tested my Windows installer on a system with a known working NVME drive and I can't see any drives on that system either. Both are 300 series intel chipsets. I downloaded the Windows 1903 installer again through the media creation tool and had the same results. Added the system specific...
I have now tried with both drive in the M2_1 slot as the only drive connected. I can see the drives in Bios, I can see the drives if I go to repair mode in the installer and run disk part. I just can't see them from the Windows 10 installer.
I have tried with bios set to AHCI mode and RST...
I am working on a new setup with a Z390 motherboard and M.2 NVME drives.
This is my fist installation on M.2 so I amssume I am missing something simple.
The system posts to bios. I can see the both drives (Or one at a time) in the bios. They are recognized correctly.
Bios is set to UEFI boot...
I have already responded to Amazon that as a long time customer that uses there services frequently I am not happy with this decision.
If anyone else feels like chiming in the amazon contact form is https://www.amazon.com/gp/help/customer/contact-us