Wake on Lan problem with 630i board

[klowngoblin]

i have both an EVGA 630i/7150 and an XFX 630i/7100 board, both have the same WOL problem

WOL/PME is ENABLED in the bios
in windows i have
wake from shutdown = ON
wakeup capability = magic packet and pattern match
under the power management tab i have
allow this computer to turn off device to save power = CHECKED
allow this device to bring the computer out of standby = CHECKED

when i either standby or power off my NIc link light goes off on the switch and i cant wake it up

now both S1 and S3 are set in the bios, when i suspend S3 is used (everything off cept ram, so all lights and fans are off). when i tell windows that the KB can bring the computer out of standby the computer goes to S1 mod meaning your fans and everythign are running, display and HDD's shut off (this consumes 110W btw vs the 10W that S3 consumes)

now if i suspend on S1 mode, the link light is still on but goes to 100mbit vs GB (which is standard) i tell my router to wake the computer up and it works, but when i shut the computer off the link light goes out again

now with my last 12 computers WOL works as expected, off or standby in S3 mode the link light always goes to 100mbit and stays on even if i shut off the computer.

What could be wrong with my 2x 630i boards? on both boards im using a 4pin ATX power connector instead of the 8pin ATX power that im supposed too (this is because no power supply has this connection thats under 850W). this is the only thing i can think of that isnt 100%

 

[klowngoblin]

i just went out and bought a corsair VX450 PSU with the EPS12V (8pin) connector
still, the NIc shuts off even after i tell it to enable WOL, either suspend or shutdown