I hate to be repeating a question, but this thread is too long to read through.
1. great pictures of your set ups!!
2.I have to admit those pics I saw have made me rethink my audio set up haha... I was wondering how are you connecting your computer to the amps for those that are using...
I would offer to compromise and split the shipping costs as mentioned earlier...that way neither person wins or loses. I guess it's like a lose lose situation. but either way you got a tough scenario! hope it gets resolved fine