rasatouche
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- Jan 16, 2011
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I loved it in the video
"You have a list of chores because you can't remember them, and they are ... umm ... oh yeah! these"
TLDR version > That guy has great unintentional comic timing, even if he's basically ensured that either a) He'll never going to see his grandchildren or b) Will be going to his daughters funeral in a few years from an OD or suicide.
What's wrong here IMO:
Daughter posts shit on facebook in an angry rant cos she's pissed about her (albeit minimal) responsibilities, she posts it on private akin to a private conversation between friends, she consciously makes it seclusionary. In other words, she wouldn't have said it or posted it publicly. Dad then fixes her laptop in his free time, doesn't show daughter how to do it, doesn't pass on knowledge that will save her time and money over the course of her life and help her gain a new skill, just fixes it, and then goes gee wonder where the sense of entitlement comes from . So after fixing it, he goes into her private facebook, goes through her comments and sees something that he doesn't like, and then because he's so insecure he has an emotional outburst and shoots the laptop.
Dad is supposed to be the 'adult' here. That's the problem. Getting pissed off because your daughter vented her emotions on facebook and then having an emotional outburst and shooting a laptop, gruffly remarking "Your stepmother said put one in for her too" isn't quote all the guys backing him up "adult or proper behaviour". It's irrational and childish, I mean you can hear the seething anger in his voice & breathing and the violently shaking paper followed by the grinding and crushing of the paper and cigarette. He didn't give it away because he acted in revenge because he's an insecure maniplative control freak...who probably came from a similar household (Hence the moving out at 18, overachieving, two jobs, college in highschool, obvious revenge streak), see a pattern here? How is the kid supposed to learn how to deal with, safely vent & control emotional triggers, or just plain manage her emotions when her father clearly can't because he hasn't dealt with his own personal shit?
And to the people applauding him for being a 'tough' parent, he's gone through his daughters private facebook, found something he couldn't handle rationally, and then went you know what, I'll get her back. When the government or a corporation invades your privacy it's "A human rights issue" but when parents do it it's "being tough" . So how is the daughter supposed to trust her father now? I wouldn't trust this guy with a piece of paper.
This isn't about being a bleeding heart liberal or anything, it's about being a good parent. Coming from a home where I had divorced and abusive parents, I moved out at 18, spent a few years mucking around causing all kinds of mischeif, and now make way more money than the both of them put together, though it could have easily gone the other way at times. I havn't seen them in years and until they want to even just acknowledge that what they did was unacceptable I won't see them again and put up with all their lies & bullshit. I realized that they're their problems, not mine, and they'll either do something about it and come around eventually (which is something I can't force) or take their problems with them to the grave.
And to all the people going oooh, it's not that bad, it's not child abuse, it's pretty obvious that it's emotional abuse, which is a form of child abuse. He's using fear to manipulate his daughter into behaving how he wants, which is terrorism, I mean child abuse . Shit, you wouldn't tolerate this behaviour from the government (spying on you, giving you stuff and then destroying it because you dared mock it as a show of power), but if it's parents it's ok? Like being a parent basically justifies being a complete douchebag of a human being? Because it's not like he decided to have sex with some girl, get her pregnant, and then pussied out of going at her with a coathanger now is it?
"You have a list of chores because you can't remember them, and they are ... umm ... oh yeah! these"
TLDR version > That guy has great unintentional comic timing, even if he's basically ensured that either a) He'll never going to see his grandchildren or b) Will be going to his daughters funeral in a few years from an OD or suicide.
What's wrong here IMO:
Daughter posts shit on facebook in an angry rant cos she's pissed about her (albeit minimal) responsibilities, she posts it on private akin to a private conversation between friends, she consciously makes it seclusionary. In other words, she wouldn't have said it or posted it publicly. Dad then fixes her laptop in his free time, doesn't show daughter how to do it, doesn't pass on knowledge that will save her time and money over the course of her life and help her gain a new skill, just fixes it, and then goes gee wonder where the sense of entitlement comes from . So after fixing it, he goes into her private facebook, goes through her comments and sees something that he doesn't like, and then because he's so insecure he has an emotional outburst and shoots the laptop.
Dad is supposed to be the 'adult' here. That's the problem. Getting pissed off because your daughter vented her emotions on facebook and then having an emotional outburst and shooting a laptop, gruffly remarking "Your stepmother said put one in for her too" isn't quote all the guys backing him up "adult or proper behaviour". It's irrational and childish, I mean you can hear the seething anger in his voice & breathing and the violently shaking paper followed by the grinding and crushing of the paper and cigarette. He didn't give it away because he acted in revenge because he's an insecure maniplative control freak...who probably came from a similar household (Hence the moving out at 18, overachieving, two jobs, college in highschool, obvious revenge streak), see a pattern here? How is the kid supposed to learn how to deal with, safely vent & control emotional triggers, or just plain manage her emotions when her father clearly can't because he hasn't dealt with his own personal shit?
And to the people applauding him for being a 'tough' parent, he's gone through his daughters private facebook, found something he couldn't handle rationally, and then went you know what, I'll get her back. When the government or a corporation invades your privacy it's "A human rights issue" but when parents do it it's "being tough" . So how is the daughter supposed to trust her father now? I wouldn't trust this guy with a piece of paper.
This isn't about being a bleeding heart liberal or anything, it's about being a good parent. Coming from a home where I had divorced and abusive parents, I moved out at 18, spent a few years mucking around causing all kinds of mischeif, and now make way more money than the both of them put together, though it could have easily gone the other way at times. I havn't seen them in years and until they want to even just acknowledge that what they did was unacceptable I won't see them again and put up with all their lies & bullshit. I realized that they're their problems, not mine, and they'll either do something about it and come around eventually (which is something I can't force) or take their problems with them to the grave.
And to all the people going oooh, it's not that bad, it's not child abuse, it's pretty obvious that it's emotional abuse, which is a form of child abuse. He's using fear to manipulate his daughter into behaving how he wants, which is terrorism, I mean child abuse . Shit, you wouldn't tolerate this behaviour from the government (spying on you, giving you stuff and then destroying it because you dared mock it as a show of power), but if it's parents it's ok? Like being a parent basically justifies being a complete douchebag of a human being? Because it's not like he decided to have sex with some girl, get her pregnant, and then pussied out of going at her with a coathanger now is it?