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The level of comprehension is depressing.
No one is arguing that the two people involved in relations, sexual or otherwise, unbeknownst to one or either of their "official" partners, is not consensual between them.
But clearly, for the other "official" partner(s), if it is unknown and not permitted, then it is a non-consensual in regards to them. An open relationship is open...why would you even be on a website designed for affairs and not simply any dating website? This is pretty obvious stuff...
I never said any of that and that kind of position would be patently ridiculous.
What I wrote was in rebuttal to Methadras claim that extra-marital affairs are only consensual behavior between two adults and that their behavior is no one else's concern.
I pointed out that there is a non-consenting 3rd party and that, at the very least, the sexual behavior of his or her spouse is of concern.
With sexual intercourse, when someone you sleep with sleeps with someone else, you end up sleeping with that other person, as well.
So when a sexual partner has an extra-marital affair and then comes home to sleep with the spouse, that spouse is now being subjected to a non-consensual sexual event.
It's not a theory, it's a definition that isn't subject to your (incorrect) opinion.And if a condom is used then what? Oh no, another one of your theories shattered again.
I don't think you understand. If the official partner does not know that the other official partner is having an illicit, yet consensual relationship with someone else, then that original 'official' partner is not capable of implied or explicit consent or non-consent because they are unaware the other partner is having another consensual relationship. That seems pretty obvious, but for some reason you and others want to inject another variable into the argument that does not belong.
that the behavior is still defined as non-consensual.
This is hilariously stupid. http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.htmlWith sexual intercourse, when someone you sleep with sleeps with someone else, you end up sleeping with that other person, as well.
where is this list? Id like to locate me some local ladies who put out.
I don't think you understand. If the official partner does not know that the other official partner is having an illicit, yet consensual relationship with someone else, then that original 'official' partner is not capable of implied or explicit consent or non-consent because they are unaware the other partner is having another consensual relationship. That seems pretty obvious, but for some reason you and others want to inject another variable into the argument that does not belong.
Justice..
Are you kidding me? So if I agree with you, in forming a relationship, that we are monogamous, then you go out and sleep with someone else, I'm not capable of consent or non-consent? You people are insane. By this same logic, a passed out woman cannot be capable of non-consent to sex since she is unaware she is having sex.
Last post; this isn't even a moral argument just one of simple logic. Remove sex from it. If I sign a contract with a business partner that I will not start a another similar business on the side, and then I do so anyway without that partner knowing, that is still non-consensual and a breach of contract.
I'm assuming people are older than 12, being on [H] for over a decade, but the logic of, "If someone doesn't know about it, then by definition they don't mind and can't disagree!" should have been weaned off of in grade school.
if you and I enter into a monogomous relationship and I seek to sleep with someone else without you knowing, then you neither consented or non-consented. You are ignorant of my behavior and therefore have input of any sort of consent because you are simply unaware. Yes or no? Also, with respect to a having sex with a woman who is passed out not being able to give consent, this is called rape because of taking a direct action of sex without her knowledge upon her person. In this regard, she is incapable of giving or not giving consent, but because someone has sexual contact with her and she cannot say yes or no, this is still considered rape on that context alone.
If a contract is signed stating that a business wouldn't be started on the side, then consent to that contract was explicitly given at the time of signing the contract by both parties. They both are aware of the conditions of that consent. No other forms of consent are required. If a side business is created without the knowledge of a partner, then again, consent or non-consent is required, the breach of contract alone and the contract itself explicitly outline consent or non-consent.
If someone is ignorant of an action or behavior, that doesn't imply that the person doesn't mind if the behavior continues. I'm simply arguing that if someone is ignorant of something, they cannot give consent or non-concept, implicitly or explicitly unless an agreement before hand is understood. That's all I've ever said. Within the eyes of the law, ignorance is no excuse, but in this regard, we aren't talking about the law from a legal point of view. We are talking arrangements between two consenting adults.
I'll choose Immanuel Kant over Mona CharenThe self righteous should read this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Do-Gooders-Liberals-Hurt-Those-Claim/dp/1593357745
Human psychology and sociological theory states you can't force people to do the right thing unless it is in their interest.
--https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Categorical_imperativeDeception[edit]
Further information: Doctrine of mental reservation
Kant asserted that lying, or deception of any kind, would be forbidden under any interpretation and in any circumstance. In Grounding, Kant gives the example of a person who seeks to borrow money without intending to pay it back. This is a contradiction because if it were a universal action, no person would lend money anymore as he knows that he will never be paid back. The maxim of this action, says Kant, results in a contradiction in conceivability (and thus contradicts perfect duty). With lying, it would logically contradict the reliability of language. If it were universally acceptable to lie, then no one would believe anyone and all truths would be assumed to be lies. The right to deceive could also not be claimed because it would deny the status of the person deceived as an end in itself. The theft would be incompatible with a possible kingdom of ends. Therefore, Kant denied the right to lie or deceive for any reason, regardless of context or anticipated consequences.
--https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_philosophy_of_Immanuel_KantThe political philosophy of Immanuel Kant (17241804) favoured a classical republican approach.[1] In Perpetual Peace: A Philosophical Sketch (1795), Kant listed several conditions that he thought necessary for ending wars and creating a lasting peace. They included a world of constitutional republics by establishment of political community.[2] His classical republican theory was extended in Doctrine of Right (1797), the first part of Metaphysics of Morals.[3]
The self righteous should read this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Do-Gooders-Liberals-Hurt-Those-Claim/dp/1593357745
Human psychology and sociological theory states you can't force people to do the right thing unless it is in their interest.
BTW, Charen is a newspaper columnist. I have my doctorate in Criminology, Law, and Society, my Master's in Social Ecology, and my Bachelor's of Science in Sociology, and I minored in philosophy (I was also lucky enough to earn my graduate degrees at a time my university hosted the number one linguistics program in the world so I was able to sit in on various courses taught by Derrida himself).The self righteous should read this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Do-Gooders-Liberals-Hurt-Those-Claim/dp/1593357745
Human psychology and sociological theory states you can't force people to do the right thing unless it is in their interest.
BTW, Charen is a newspaper columnist. I have my doctorate in Criminology, Law, and Society, my Master's in Social Ecology, and my Bachelor's of Science in Sociology, and I minored in philosophy (I was also lucky enough to earn my graduate degrees at a time my university hosted the number one linguistics program in the world so I was able to sit in on various courses taught by Derrida himself).
I'd like you to cite for me which psychological and sociological theories you think state that one "can't force people to do the right thing unless is in in their self interest."
I can, in contradiction to your claim, cite an entire branch of game theory that conditions one's behavior on what they think others think and do, along with a few branches of philosophical theory (Kant's Categorical Imperative being but one) that point out how human behavior is conditioned by those around us and not purely on self interest (or more complexly stated, that it is within our self interest to consider the interests of those around us).
I don't think any of the folks are arguing that adultery or affairs should be illegal or that we should force people to behave ... most of the arguments have been along the lines of "they were doing something they shouldn't have and now they may pay the price for that" (Karmic Justice) and a few have been arguing that there was nothing wrong with what they were doing (they're wrong but they are entitled to that opinion
)... just because people choose to do "bad" things doesn't mean that people who are opposed to those bad things must sit idle or be forced to change their definition of right and wrong ... have an affair or don't have an affair (makes no difference to me unless it is my wife or kids doing it), but if you get caught doing it don't expect sympathy or solace from me
Also, the book you referenced was on Liberal policies ... if anything, the folks opposed to affairs are of the more conservative thinking (not liberals who would condone such family destroying behaviors) ... I would agree that it is liberal thinking on the nuclear family that has destroyed many of the family values that the USA used to be famous for
When people start tossing grenades around the discussion it helps to have the appropriate credentials.Your epeen is a good size, although it gets stunted slightly when pulled out to aid in a forum argument.
Adultery is illegal in about half the states but rarely enforced.I'd argue that adultery should be made illegal if kids are in the picture. Conducting an affair will not only hurt the spouse but the kids as well. When affairs are discovered, in the messy aftermath the damage to the kids has been proven to be a detriment to their future well being and development. One could argue that conducting an affair could be construed as an indirect child abuse.
I'd argue that adultery should be made illegal if kids are in the picture. Conducting an affair will not only hurt the spouse but the kids as well. When affairs are discovered, in the messy aftermath the damage to the kids has been proven to be a detriment to their future well being and development. One could argue that conducting an affair could be construed as an indirect child abuse.
When people start tossing grenades around the discussion it helps to have the appropriate credentials.
While I cannot argue the effects of the affair, it can become a slippery slope once you add laws to cover every immoral/unethical decision. To prosecute for adultry you would need evidence, so now people would need to have a higher degree of monitoring to ensure this doesn't happen and also to have hard evidence in a courtroom. And lets say I cheated 5 years ago, regret it more than anything. Should that go on a record so as to damn me from any future relationships. Should we have public records of every mistake or bad choice we make? I know this is blowing what you said out to the maximum, but it is a natural trend of topics such as these.
I've posted a picture of my doctorate degree in past discussions and the regular participants in these discussions are aware of my degrees' existence.Fair point. Though without also providing references to your credentials, it has no more bearing on an argument than any other 'grenade' thrown in the discussion.
You don't have to try and reinvent the wheel. These laws already exist.Ok, how about this:
If there is sufficient solid evidence of extramarital affair in a relationship during pregnancy or after child(ren) are born then this act will also be classified as indirect child abuse and prosecuted as such.
a) Both parties have been married for x time with valid marriage license.
b) There is direct or non direct evidence ( texts, calls, emails ) that a physical affair took place.
etc etc etc
I could tell you were a genius by the way you talk down to everyone, no more proof needed.I've posted a picture of my doctorate degree in past discussions and the regular participants in these discussions are aware of my degrees' existence.
The issue is less about being a genius and more about having the appropriate credentials to make claims about psychological and sociological theories about human behavior.I could tell you were a genius by the way you talk down to everyone, no more proof needed.
The issue is less about being a genius and more about having the appropriate credentials to make claims about psychological and sociological theories about human behavior.
I was positioning my credentials against Charen's. Kant's 300 year old categorical imperative as opposed to Charen's "liberals are doo doo heads."
If you think that properly defining "consent" is "talk[ing] down to everyone" then that is a problem with your ability to handle information. You should direct those kinds of criticisms back at yourself and others who went out of your way to try and personally attack me by writing that I don't understand logic, reason, or the English language. Those are examples of talking down to someone yet you were perfectly fine doing them. When I post my credentials and you get butthurt over that, it's a strange response indeed.
So because of this hack they are offering free account deletions. But don't the 'hackers'already have that information so it is a pretty moot point? Also, apparently the website charged $20 to delete your account. Wow, and they actually had users?
Link to article:
http://www.latimes.com/business/tec...ley-madison-free-deletion-20150721-story.html
I don't think any of the folks are arguing that adultery or affairs should be illegal or that we should force people to behave ... most of the arguments have been along the lines of "they were doing something they shouldn't have and now they may pay the price for that" (Karmic Justice) and a few have been arguing that there was nothing wrong with what they were doing (they're wrong but they are entitled to that opinion
)... just because people choose to do "bad" things doesn't mean that people who are opposed to those bad things must sit idle or be forced to change their definition of right and wrong ... have an affair or don't have an affair (makes no difference to me unless it is my wife or kids doing it), but if you get caught doing it don't expect sympathy or solace from me
Also, the book you referenced was on Liberal policies ... if anything, the folks opposed to affairs are of the more conservative thinking (not liberals who would condone such family destroying behaviors) ... I would agree that it is liberal thinking on the nuclear family that has destroyed many of the family values that the USA used to be famous for
I was positioning my credentials against Charen's. Kant's 300 year old categorical imperative as opposed to Charen's "liberals are doo doo heads."