Ghosting after agreeing to purchase something

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What's the procedure for someone agreeing to buy something, you provide the payment info and nothing happens. They kept saying that they were going to pay (once a day basically). And finally just stopped responding to replies. I've already moved on to accepting other offers but is it behavior that should be reported?
 

jmilcher

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What's the procedure for someone agreeing to buy something, you provide the payment info and nothing happens. They kept saying that they were going to pay (once a day basically). And finally just stopped responding to replies. I've already moved on to accepting other offers but is it behavior that should be reported?
It’s more common than you think. I inform them after sending payment info, that if the payment is not received in X amount of hours I am moving on to the next potential buyer. And I do what I say. Haven’t had a single issue in a decade here trading. I don’t take it personal.
 
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For a second there I thought you were talking about your experience with online dating ;).

As far as the behavior is concerned... Welcome to the modern day lack of interpersonal communication.
 
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Thanks, I'll start putting a time limit on it. That makes the most sense. I've just started encountering it more and more recently. Hadn't happened in the prior 8ish years.
 

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I've had people back out after having a negotiated price and then providing payment info. Usually it's common courtesy to at least inform the seller that you're going in a different direction though instead of ghosting.
 
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I've had people back out after having a negotiated price and then providing payment info. Usually it's common courtesy to at least inform the seller that you're going in a different direction though instead of ghosting.
This seems to happen a lot less with people already have money on the line. If you look at the housing market, make an offer on a house and the seller's real estate company physically takes possession of your earnest money.

That's a pretty good example of locking in. Granted you can back out if the house turns out to have issues you cannot reconcile with. However, not even certain how Ebay handles the entire bidding process and backing out of a purchase. I suspect it's a lot easier to do than backing out of a home purchase (without losing your earnest money).
 
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I agree this happens from time to time but be careful because one time it happened to me and I similarly made complaints only to find out the buyer had been hospitalized I felt pretty bad in the end.
 
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